Parenting & Exam 101

A must for me every workday morning (NO!! It's not breakfast >> I eat daily, no off days) is to read 'Views - The Star (shall we call it Letter to Editor?). Today 1 particular letter grabbed my attention : 'Parent's role in children's schoolwork' by James Nayagam...

His daughter has gotten a 'B' & didn't dare to show her exam result, after much persuasion from them only then she did. He prayed & thank god because Sarah passed her exam and was met by a hug from her. So he wrote in, encouraging parent's acceptance, understanding & love in their children's examination results. I thought to myself >> dreams are made of this :P

It reminds me of my own childhood....Where moms was most proud & bragging whenever their offspring has gotten 'As' and appear in the Top No so & so in class or school. Every year, my teacher's complain to my mom : Smart but too lazy, talked too much...

Ffwd to Secondary, I don't get as many 'As' but I gained way more knowledge which they couldn't grade but evidence, i.e. my report card begs to differ. So, the all time million dollar question by my beloved Mami :

M1 (Mami) : You are not stupid, why didn't you make the effort to score all As?
M2 (Me) : I know, A is not everything. I can't learn much in school with those systems!
M1 : You think you are so smart isn't it?
M2 : I learn & read a lot more than I do in school! (already a rebel cum smart ass)

The problem here is, whatever that came out from the teacher's mouth is like old story to me.. I have learned more & I meant way more since Standard 3 because my hobby is to collect unwanted books behind the libraries & take it home with me. The things that kept me in school was English, BM (both periods providing literature books to be read), Kemahiran Hidup, History, lab experiments during Science & PE.

I knew many straight A students & I meant many..some coupled with vast knowledge & EQ, survived but a lot of them, crashed & burn...BADLY!! They can't survive in the real world, the playgrounds created by other adults.. (I can't say I am in great shape but I am happy where I am).

Moral of the story is... 'As' might and the keyword IS *MIGHT* give you easier access to doors & maybe.. maybe to many doors but it is not everything. Many if not most of the most successful people in the world (I think you'd know a few) are without a decent piece of paper (except that piece of thing called cheque, their Datuk, Tan Sri, Tun-ship certificates) to show for it.

What I would like to see are parents nurturing the emotional & mental wellbeing of their children. The common courtesy, sensibility, sensitivity, compassion & empathy in their children must not be cast aside..

Too many bratty children with As (which doesn't equal them being smart but rather countless hours spent memorizing data) are occupying this world. I see them brawling, rolling, screaming, zooming, cutting, knocking, you name it they've done it brats when you are outside, sometimes inside your home. You can be proactive & change that! Kudos to James, I hope you continue to nurture your children & help them get to where they want to be.

Meanwhile I will wait for 10 more years to ask my son again if he still wants & could be a pilot :P

Salute!

It was supposed to be..

It was supposed to be a beautiful day..

Went to Curve with a friend of mine and of all people in the world...I bump into her.. my late gf's mom.. Went over to say hi & asked how have she been (my late gf just passed not too long ago) but was met with an ill looking response *just imagine when something disgusts you*.

I feel sorry for her lost and mine too and no matter how much i dislike her, I do remember my manners.. and have empathy & be sympathetic.. My friends have told me before, do not need to be kind where it is not needed. Do not need reach out to them though I knew of important informations they don't about my late gf..

In time I will heal and in time I will forgive but then again.. I will never forget....

Meanwhile.. just a selfish ranting of an injured heart...

Safe sex in "O" during IDAHO & International AIDS Memorial Day

Last Sat I was in 'O' to support PT & giving out safe sex kits to everyone : straight / lgbt..

Was happy to meet some who were downright friendly :

Me : May I stick you?
Him : No no...(with a cheeky smile)
Me : *suprised*
Him : You can't stick me..I don't want to..but you can stick me with the red ribbons..

LOL!!

Alas, I, with other friends from the community was taken aback by the display of emotion of others who are either treating us like credit card sales or that we have AIDS when we handed out red ribbons & condoms..

Well.. you win some.. you lose some.. *sigh*

That brings a round of discussion on...

SEX.. TO HELL WITH IT OR BETTER BE SAFE?

I think it's a daily struggle that 1 fights to stay alive and the other is throwing caution to the wind..

What is it with human and it's misconception that they are indestructible?

Does it gives you hope to fight for what you can achieve? Does it not give you a false sense of security?? >> (my late gf taught me this word)

Why the unnecessary hesitation when it comes to protecting oneself? I mean.. I see many on a daily basis trying to protect their hearts from being broken, protecting the youth so it will not be devoured by age and the spouse will not leave once the shell wilted away and see that it is lacking in body, within?

Then why, pray god.. do we forget to protect our most and i must stress this >> INNERMOST being of one self that is our SEXES?

For any women out there who thinks that you might not be susceptible to any sexual diseases.. THINK AGAIN..

I knew those who never used protection though was previously infected by STD and never bother to protect their existing & future partners from it (you know who you are).. IF THIS IS CALLED LOVE THEN I DON'T KNOW WHAT REAL LOVE REALLY IS..

Food for your thought >> I read AIDS : Women & Epidemic (I think this is the title..I read it more than 10 yrs ago & the book is now with my darling for several years). This book practically changed my whole life & outlook on my sexual life..made me rethink about safe sex practices, protecting yourself & your love ones..

HAPPY SAFE FUCKING EVERYBODY!!

Dinner with 3 : Manhattan Fish

I was crazily restless on Thurs and then I called up my besties and asked them out for dinner & a drink..

After much dilly dallying from my part - We finally came to conclusion with Manhattan Fish in Pyramid.

Our server was nice & the outlet manager (i think) Fadzil was very warm too..

I ordered Garlic Butter Mussel and it comes with either Bruschetta or was it actually a Baguette???

Moving on..

I also ordered a serving of Fried Country Mushroom and add ons of Fried Calamari & something else which I can't remember (It was 2 days ago~)

Triple 2 had a Cod fish with rice (which i can't remember the name as well) .. & agent 631 had a Caesar Salad.. minus the eggs (they ran out of stock) and then Fadzil up the irresistable offer of 10% discount from our ttl amount (so generous!)

I also had a clam chowder & there's a promo going on with soup + bottomless drinks @ 9.90. Both of my besties had corn soups. They are both delicious but i prefer saltier stuff that night.. so clams UP!

Then Fadzil also suprised us with another round of his generosity by serving us a free Fried Whitebait which is really nice.. has a look of small little prawns (not ha mai or he bi)

After our 10% discount as promised, our bill came up to a total of 91++ which is almost half of what we spent together in Bubba Gump..

VERDICT : Bubba Gump hands down over Manhattan Fish (Sorry Fadzil)

Then we proceed to Starbucks & were enjoying another round of chatting about sex (don't we always), about our personalities, about relationships, hair & make up & our disgust with *shriek* cockr....es!!

We can't help but noticed another table of 2 girls & a guy was staring at us even when we leave our table..Some ppl don't know how to stare politely...hahah!!

Maybe we were talking too loudly about sex..or about virginity..haha!! Gotta remind ourselves to talk softer...or maybe louder so they'd be too embarrased to look at all..hehehe!

I had a great time that night going loca with you 2 & thank you Triple 2 & Agent 631 for another wonderful outing.. always! Can't wait for another round..soon I hope!!

Reminder : Friendship

I was out for lunch yesterday with another bestie of mine.. setting was normal (Japanese food that we both love!!) We were talking and it became apparent that 1 thing can make or break a friendship..

What is it?? hmm...let's put it this way~

2 of my best friend..worried to death that I'll be thinking too many depressing thoughts decided to haul me out on Monday for lunch & other activities..keeping me busy, so to say. I asked 1 to not tell me what I should do because I am not in the right mind to do it & I rejected another's offer for lunch + outing & went out with another jimui of mine..

Needless to say, I have let my 2nd friend down that day because she has been keeping herself available for me & was a little disappointed that I didn't even ask her to join me & my jimui.

The moral of my story is.. HONESTY (you must be puzzled by now)

Despite my not so tactful rejections of my friends, my 2nd friend appreciated the fact that I honestly informed her that I am going out with someone else after rejecting her offer instead of creeping behind her back...

As we sat there eating & talking and reach a higher understanding of our morales & principals.. she tried expressing what she had felt on that particular moment and I try to explain in my best way so she understand what state of mind I was in and hence the rejection of her offers.. This is what a real friend is... they listen, they understand and they care!

Also, we have discovered that we might not fully know all our friends including our besties in & out but we love them anyways for what we know and what we accept..

Thank you 'triple 2' for coming out for lunch.... here's some mock questions that might come in handy when you doubt if any love exist at all...

Do you love your family?
Do you tell your friends the good, sweet, memorable stuff when it happened with your family?
Do you bitch when you felt hurt by your family?

If your answer is yes, no, yes.. you are only human..and being human you sometimes wanna be selfish and keep the good stuff with you because then you can take a piece of it each time & savour it..without sharing with anyone at all~

And that is what I did exactly with the memory of my baby....Thank you everyone for your love, strength & support!

Transportation..again~

Now..I think the higher ups are really demanding this from me.. so I am posting another blog here.. today...about transportation...AGAIN..

SIGH~

Looks fated I am bitching about mode of transportation..

1st during the day it was the rempit..

now 2nd...*shake head*

Here's the story :

Heading back from work, I was waiting for a bus that takes me to the kelana jaya lrt station. Now every single time i reach to that bus stop.. (it was the 1 before kj lrt station if you come from kdu/ss2/tmn bahagia) all the bus drivers loves parking it there : T607, T622, T623, T624 & 702.

Now 'why am i so upset??' you ask...

IT IS BECAUSE THEY WERE SUPPOSE TO FERRY PASSENGER.. NOT GO MAKAN & MINUM MERRILY DURING WORKING HOURS..

Gotten my bus anyways after waiting for more than 40 mins and mind you it was 8.40 ish pm and dark too...

Which brings me to my 3nd...

Talian Aduan / Complain Helpline (for irresponsible public transportation drivers and the likes...)

Having been a frequent complainant to the above (god help us) cab, bus, bus, cab...I must really say this :

Why the hell did they fucking set up the line if the operator or customer service person/liaison will call me up 3 weeks or more than a month later and ask me what is wrong? this is the normal convo I've had over the past year :

Me : Why did you take so long to call me back?
Her : (Silence on the other end..)
Her : Miss did you made a report on..... (whatever my complain was)
Me : Ya..the cab / bus bla bla bla.. this that..yada yada..
Her : Oh? Really? (as if i am too free and bullshitting). They're like that.. we always got the same complain... (wtf??!!)
Me : If don't want to ferry passenger, why don't just be CEO's driver? When they are needed then only drive?
Her : Yeah.. their behaviour (mostly cabbie) is that common.. (again.. wtf???)
Me : What is your next course of action & how long will it take?
Her : We will file a report, which will take 1-2 weeks and then give them 2-3 more weeks to respond.. and then the board will evaluate.. >> this if there really is a board governing them...
(I wonder is mobile phone a dead service to them.. in fact.. is the phone even dead?? i know.. i know.. black & white, right??)

Moving on...

4th issue that really do pissed me off and always top the creme de la creme is us....THE UGLY MALAYSIANS!!

I was in the kj lrt station by now and.. you will see all the kiasu Malaysian drivers..be it chinese, indian, malay & other races.. of both genders.. today Chinese top the score.. majority of them did it today...

And wtf am i talking about??

each time the gate is open for the rapid buses...instead of leaving the spot for the buses.. the cars will zoom in and speed, taking the road meant for rapid buses to pick-up or let off (i can't remember the term) the passengers...

Now, there are another lane meant for the cars to do the above, pick up or let off too.. but... NO.. the KIASU DRIVERS just have to hijack the buses's stop because.... *drum roll*

YOU GUESS RIGHT!!

that lane is straight...and looks easier without needing to swerve their heavy arms to the left..

Now if I am not mistaken, with the crazy fads going on with diet, skinner bodies.. us Malaysians should be lightweights..so why the reluctance in arm swerving??

There you have it.. UGLY MALAYSIANS ON THE ROAD FOR YOU!!

And that's another story for next time...

Sekian~

Rempit..Rempit..Headache

This is a real killer here....

rempit....

SIGH~

Do you think it's a conspiracy?

Are we so desperate to have ballot counts that the menace is not apprehended? So what? Does it really helped the politicians to advance? I believe they seemed to think so.. again.. all these at the expense of the rakyat's peace and harmony...

I can only pray now that our Polis Diraja Malaysia will make good on it's promise to rid the streets off them..

FYI, I have been a snatch theft victim since 12 and needless to say I am still traumatized until today and of course I have to be extremely alert to a point I can't relax..(my body can only take so much stress from being careful & uptight - a wonder really that I have not have anxiety & cancer buildup due to the stress )

AND...

the answer I get is always the same from the you know who LAH....."It's common la!! That area has many such cases already". Now you tell what can a commoner like me do? Be a vigilante??

Check our Letter to Editor from the Star today (I'm sure all those was sent from Malaccans with love) if you get what I mean..

SO...IS IT A CONSPIRACY OR NOT????

else... don't be NATO - No Action Talk Only

Thank you..

A new ending or a late start?

Now I have thought of so many things and wrote none and finally itchy butt to say something today..

so many thoughts and so little time..which one 1st? profound, thought provoking or just silly, loud, bimbo-ish fun?

one just have too much choices out there..

well.. since i can't make up my mind with the categorization...let's just go with the flow shall we?

Thank you for coming inside my thoughts and..let's see what happens after this!!